Something that I have been learning a lot about is that you are always in control of your actions and your attitude. If you don’t like something, you’re the only one who can change it.
The other day I was scrolling through my new favourite app (Pinterest), and came across this graphic that was a list of 10 Steps to Protect Your Vibe – essentially 10 things to do (or not to do) to ensure that you are keeping good energy in and bad energy out. I loved all of them, but there were 3 steps that stood out to me – 3 things that when implemented into your life, would change it for the better. I know this because those are three things that I have been working on, and have felt more freedom in my life since.
1. Let Go of Things You Can’t Control
This one is something that I could not do for the longest time. I am the type of person who puts so much stress on myself for things that a) aren’t that important, and b) there’s nothing I can do about. I have been doing a lot of mindset training over the past few months, and one of the biggest things that I have learned is that the only person that you are in control of is yourself, and as much as we want to control other people, we can’t. We don’t get to decide what they do or what they say, but we can choose how we let it affect us. For example, you can’t change the negative comments that someone says about you, but you can choose not to let it affect you.
So instead of focusing on the things you can’t control focus on what you can! Don’t stress or dwell on things that you have no control over, focus your energy on what you do, and have faith that everything will work out exactly how it’s supposed to.
2. Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others
This is a big one and I think it’s something that we all do. But the thing with comparison is that as bad as it is, what makes it worse is the fact that we are usually comparing our WORST qualities to someone else’s BEST qualities, and that’s not even a true comparison.
I think that comparing ourselves is a natural instinct – it happens so naturally that it’s almost just a reflex. Sometimes we compare to people who we perceive as “better” than us, or those who we see as “less”. Both are equally as bad because when you are comparing yourself, instead of being focused on what you’re doing, you’re focusing on what everybody else is doing instead. I’ve learned that it’s better to stay in your own lane – and if you absolutely must compare yourself to someone, make sure that it’s to the person you were the day before and then use that to focus on how you can become a better version of yourself.
3. Ignore Any Opinions That Don’t Enhance Your Life
“True freedom comes from being passionate in what you’re pursuing and creating, regardless of what other people think of you for doing it.”
I think this one is the most important, and I believe that it can be applied to every aspect of your life, and will set you free.
I definitely learned this the hard way, because I used to be someone who wouldn’t do certain things because I was afraid of what other people would think of me for doing them.
But then I realized that the people who were giving those negative opinions weren’t necessarily even valid to me. I mean if I wouldn’t want to be in their position and I wouldn’t take advice from them, then why should their criticisms mean anything to me?
I’ve also learned that when someone gives their opinion, you can’t take it personally, because their opinion is always a reflection of themselves. So now when someone says something negative to me, instead of letting it get to me and feeling sorry for myself, I feel sorry for them. I am so sorry that they are in such a negative space in their life that they feel the need to criticize someone else to make themselves feel better.
Once you stop caring about what other people think and start doing the things that truly make you happy, you’ll be set free. I have gotten this feeling over the past few months and couldn’t be happier. I’m so passionate about what I do and it makes me so happy. I’m building my dream life and am loving every second of it – and nobody has the right to take that away from me.
I hope those tips were helpful – remember, don’t let anyone make you feel any less than what you are. You are amazing and you are going to do big things!! I believe in you!
All for now, and chat soon!!